People May Not Like You At The Same Moment That You Like Them!!!

The setting this time was a new watering hole at Andheri East. (Appoo, we found that CT serves adulterated IB). And we were talking about how we wasted the week. And during such discussion, Abhijit, out of the blue, makes a statement “People May Not Like You At The Same Moment That You Like Them”. This statement hit me like a ton of bricks, the high I was in, changed into a realization. Till now I had thought that either people liked you or they didn't, I had not taken this possibility into account. Suddenly for me, a lot of things started to make sense. Why people behave the way they do? (I forgot to ask Abs what he had for breakfast yesterday) I do not know, or rather don’t remember, the context in which this statement was made, but roughly, we were discussing as to why a person does not like us even though we like him/her, and are we right in giving up that relationship and move on? And Abs comes up with a statement like this!!!. We were there a minimum of 3 hours yesterday, but this statement was the only thing I remembered when I woke up, after a drinking binge.

And as the meaning slowly sunk in I realized, this statement is not limited to “like” or “love”, it can be applied to all emotions, even hate (People may not hate you the same moment that you hate them) or respect (people may not respect you at the same moment that you respect them). We always assume that a person has to like/love/hate/respect us the same instant that we like/love/hate/respect him/her & if we do not see that emotion or reaction we believe that the person will never like / hate / love you. I realized, that deep down we wish we could control other people’s emotions consequently we wish other people to think like us, to become like us. And yes Abs, you were right when you said people being unique in themselves, each has a different “emotional reaction time”. That it requires co-incidence (or both being drunk) to have a same “emotional reaction time. I have come to believe that the best way to not being hurt & not hurting is to memorize this statement that Abhijit, while connected to the cosmic consciousness made.

And to conclude, when we feel frustrated by people not understanding us, the only thing to remember is that “People may not understand you at the same moment that you understand them”, but it is wrong to give up on it and move on. You have to give time to people whom you care about, they will come to understand you.

Great statement Abs.

And Appoo, we even tried to SMS you, didn’t connect unfortunately.